Just Jezz

Tribute Page to Jezz Alton, my husband, soulmate, life-long friend and rock.

My love   ✅ My life   ✅ My friend  ✅ My soulmate   ✅ My husband

Together Forever

Check out the new Together Forever page. It mainly features photos taken, that are selfies of Jezz and Wayne together, over the decades.

2000

THE FIRST TIME EVER I SAW HIS FACE
Jezz and I met on 7 November 2000 at Legends club and hotel, Marine Parade, Brighton. It was formerly known as The New Europe Hotel and is regarded as a vital part of the gay scene in Brighton and most popular with people who visit and need somewhere to stay.
I was in the bar area on the street level of the building and was with Paul, who at the time was Pete’s boyfriend. We sat and watched the comings and goings and observed those who were guests staying at the hotel and those who were just customers of the bar. At one point, this tall slim, slightly camp guy, comes through the side door and has luggage, so it was obvious that he was staying in the hotel and was going to check-in. But he left the luggage and went back outside and came in with easily as much luggage as before. My thought was that he was with someone else who had perhaps gone to park their car. About 30 minutes later, he appears again, at the bar and we get talking to him. He said his name is Jezz and then startled us by saying that he was alone. I questioned the amount of luggage he had, expecting him to say that he was a drag artist or other performer and that was his costumes we saw earlier. But it wasn’t, it was just his day wear and night wear (as in going out, not pyjamas). We had a couple of drinks together and then all decided to head to the Amsterdam next door and try out their sauna in the basement. It wasn’t too busy, but before long, Jezz and I were involved in a threesome with some other guy on his own. With Paul going back to London later that day, Jezz and I were in each other’s company for the entire week, shopping all day and socialising and drinking of an evening. We bought each other gifts every day and he was so charming and adorable.

2001

Jezz moved away from his home in Milton Keynes and stayed with work colleagues in Purley, Surrey. He worked as a co-licensee at The Gypsy Moth pub in The Colonnades, Purley Way, Croydon. He would come to work with me some days when I was working as a booking clerk at a limousine hire company based in Charlwood, near Gatwick Airport.

Special days out have included being chauffeur driven in a stretch limousine to the Royal Albert Hall to see Victoria Wood. Another limo hire for 5 hours driving around London’s West End and South London on a gay pub crawl with my sister Nikki, her two friends Fran and Laurie, and flatmate Paul.
He was very supportive and with me totally when Kingston Hospital’s A&E department told me that Betty had died, Christmas Eve 2001 and we had to drive to New Malden and tell my Dad (Nik was also with us).

2002

Jezz and I moved in together in April in to a two-bedroom ground floor flat in Wallington, Surrey, he was very supportive and completely with me for Jean’s funeral.

2003

Jezz and I went to Julia’s 50th birthday celebration at her home in Woodmansterne. On New Year’s Eve Jezz dressed in a suit just before midnight, dressed the dining room table with tea candles, all in a heart shape and inside the heart was a champagne bottle and 2 glasses all in a neat holder.

2004

We ventured out to the theatre to see Fame The Musical at Bromley, a trip to Thorpe Park, and he helped me to overcome my fear of white-knuckle fun-fair rides, even if only for a day. We spent many evenings at the gay pub The Goose and Carrot and karaoke nights in the downstairs bar. He was with me to help organise Dad’s 80th birthday celebration and the evening meal at Kelong Chinese restaurant in Waddon, along with the creation of the ‘This Is Your Life’ style photo album. He was a huge comfort and very supportive at a friend’s funeral, Mark from the Goose & Carrot (Richard’s partner). We also did a photoshoot together with David Jack in Shirley Hills.

2005

Jezz was by my side for another funeral, this time Frank Browne’s, (Emma’s Dad). This year was also mixed with sad and happy times… Jezz’s partner from Milton Keynes, Ted died and we attended his funeral. It’s also the year that Jezz and I met David Wallis, aka Daddy David, in Brighton. Also, Jezz passed his theory test and then his driving test. We both went to see Joan Rivers at the Fairfield Halls, Croydon and we celebrated Jezz’s birthday with 10 friends at Park Place, Mitcham. We went again with the family to celebrate Dad’s 81st birthday. And we stayed overnight at his Mum and sister’s (Joan and Hayley’s) for the first time. We finished off the year with friends at The Reflex nightclub, Kingston on New Year’s Eve.

2006

Jezz helped me to overcome two phobias… flying and white-knuckle rides in theme parks. We had cause to join Nick in a business trip to Denmark and Jezz coaxed me to get my passport updated, and we went to Copenhagen in May for an overnight stay. We also accompanied Nick and David (Daphne) to return a BMW car to Dunkirk via the ferry. Furthermore, we went to the cinema to see Rent and Jezz exchanged his Renault Clio for a red Suzuki Jimny.

2007

There was a health issue (undisclosed), Jezz also started his PADI course for diving, one of our special days out included a trip to London Zoo with Mum Joan and sister Hayley. Jezz had made huge preparations for a friends gathering at Park Place, Mitcham for my 40th birthday. At the time, it was a Beefeater restaurant and there were 37 friends

2008

There were two significant losses, our dear friend Jeff in February and my Dad in April. Jezz was there completely. He kept a respectful distance while I attended to Dad’s funeral arrangements with my sisters, and he stayed by my side for Jeff’s funeral, too. We try to do at least one special day out a year, and this year it was to Brooklands Museum and the Mercedes-Benz World in Weybridge.

2009

In February, Jezz and I buy one another an eternity ring each. Jezz lost his Nan (Ivy) and we attended her funeral in Essex. We were together for Michael Charlton’s 50th birthday celebration at Henfold Lake, where we had a BBQ. In June, we learn of another loss, this time it was Dan, Tony’s partner, and we went to see Tony and again to pay our respects at Dan’d funeral. Jezz and I went blackberry picking at Ashtead Common. We had another special day out and this time with Daddy David to Hastings. We went to Barbara’s 60th birthday celebration at The Woodman in Woodmansterne. Furthermore, we went with DD to Torquay for 4 days and this was to be the most special of the breakaways with DD and the last. It was my first visit to Bluewater and we both met up with Melanie there. We went to Littlehampton for the day with DD and had fish and chips.

2010

We celebrated Spencer’s birthday at a local Indian restaurant as well as sister Nikki’s at the Pizza Express, we both went to see a recording of the Channel 4 panel game show Out Of Ten Cats. We then also had tickets to see Bruce Forsythe, A Comedy Roast. Furthermore, we met Jamie G for the first time in the café at Shirley, we took DD to his first floatation tank in London. We went to Melanie’s for the day and met her partner then, Mark and Mel’s daughter Adele… we had a BBQ in their garden. Jezz’s gallbladder saga started, and he was hospitalised twice, one of them was to have it removed. Jezz traded in his Jimny for a lime green Peugeot 207cc, we both bought our first iPhone together, it was the iPhone 4S.

2011

Jezz and I did a photoshoot with Michael Keogh at his place, Jezz bought us both a Pandora bracelet each, and it started a short-lived interest with everything that was Pandora. We went to London’s Charing Cross Hospital to see DD and then again to collect him and take him back home to Brighton. Jezz and I go with Joan and Hayley for a day out to Hampton Court Palace and then another day out with them again to Arundel. Jezz bought a new iMac. Jezz and I went to Westfield Shopping Centre. We also went to the Epsom Playhouse to see Paul Zerdin. We spent an open mic evening with Kelly, Debbie and Kes at the Dragon pub in Colgate. It was our first time at Cosmo’s in Croydon, and we went with the Gardener family for Vicki and Irene’s birthday. We arranged an afternoon spa treatment and lunch in Brighton for DD, who was too poorly to join in but turned up. We mourned together for two more losses, Daddy David and Maggie, in November.

2012

We went for an evening meal for my birthday to The Halfway Bridge, Petworth with Donald and Ian, we met up with Sarah and Karen for a catchup and meal at Henry’s Table, Beddington. An afternoon tea with Ian, Donald, and Kelly at Cliveden House. To the Guildford theatre to see Three Men In A Boat, and again Cirque Du Ciel’s Shanghai at The Kingston Theatre, to a Vintage car show in Wallington with Ian and again to Wisley Gardens. We had another special day out and this time with Nikki in Brighton for the day.

2013

We went with Ian to London for a day out and were treated to breakfast at Fortnum & Mason’s. Jezz bought me a Mac mini, he broke his ankle at Epsom Downs, we went to Vicki’s 40th birthday in Handcross, Jezz had a gathering of friends and family at home in the garden for his Big Birthday Firework Night Extravaganza.

2014

We had a special day out with Kelly to London’s Borough Market and a float at Float Works. Another special day out and this time with Nikki to Rustington. We went with Michele, Nikki and Anthony to Norfolk and stayed over night in a B&B. It was to be at Aunty Gwen’s funeral. We also went to see a new home in Langley Park Road, Sutton and hated it.

2015

Jezz and I underwent the massive saga of moving home. It wasn’t far from the flat but we were fortunate enough to be able to upgrade to a 2 bedroom house with back garden and drive for 2 cars. We also spent a day out in Pagham, visiting Barry (the gardener) and meeting his lovely wife Mel and daughter Ellie (and boyfriend Ben) and Lottie the dog. We also went to see Sarah and Karen at their home on the south coast. We bought a Flymo Easi Glide lawn mower together. We met up with Norma at IKEA in Croydon. Jezz went for an interview and got the job at Waitrose and started two weeks later. Meals out included The Beijing Garden, Cheam Village, The Blue Ball, Tadworth (with Nikki), The Mill House, Mitcham and we hosted an evening with Mother, Sara, Jodie, Michele and Nik at our place.

2016

Jezz and I tried ray wings for the first time at home, we both went to his works belated Christmas party at Epsom Downs, I got my new John Lewis Partner’s Partnership discount card that Jezz applied for, Jezz got his first and second iWatch and gave me his first one, he bought a wonderful Swarovski crystal teddy bears with hearts for our anniversary, had meals out at The Bell in Reigate, Subway at Valley Park, Cau restaurant in Kingston (twice), The Well House Inn in Mugswell, The Rambler’s Rest in Coulsdon, Michele’s for a family gathering, Sakura Indian restaaurant for Jezz’s 45th birthday, bought and had installed new kitchen lights and sink tap, bought an expensive video doorbell, set of curtains for the lounge, a Dyson cordless vac, a Qualcast trimmer and a Dualit kettle.

2017

Jezz and I went for meals at The Silver Spoon Diner, Tattenham Corner, Poppins in Sutton, The Black Swan in Peas Pottage where we met up with Vicki and all had Sunday lunch together, The Thatched Inn in Hassocks with sister Nikki, The Grasshopper Inn in Westerham, The Woodman at Woodmansterne where we had an evening meal outside for Stacey’s 30th and Alfie’s 14th birthday, Max’s Thai Cooking with Nikki and Harrison for Jezz’s birthday, met up with Jezz at lunchtime as a surprise and went for lunch in Organico in Epsom. It was my 50th birthday in April and Jezz paid for sister Nikki and I to spend a day at the spa in The Grand hotel, Brighton. It was the year that Jezz bought his Mini Cooper Coupé. We converted the dining table in to a coffee table. Jezz came with me to meet up with Mother, Amanda and Sara at Mother’s. Jezz came with me to the Christmas party at The Courtyard Clinic.

2018

Jezz and I had an Indian meal at Akash Tandoori, Hackbridge, at Global in Croydon for Freddie’s 9th birthday, The Star in Leatherhead and again with his Mum and Hayley. We both went to Brighton to celebrate’s Jezz’s 11th D-Day plus another visit to Brighton on another occasion, day out to Amanda’s and a bit to eat at The Chocolate Frog, Oakhanger. A drive out for a meal at The Little Brown Jug in Tonbridge for Sunday roast lunch, The Sheep Shed at Botley Hill for afternoon tea. We both turned up together for Paul Caiger’s 50th at the North Cheam Sports and Social Club, 2 trips to Reigate Village doing the charity shops and getting something to eat, day out in Eastbourne, breakfast at the Red Barn, Lingfield, another drive out to nowhere in particular and ended up in Ockley and had breakfast in The Inn On The Green and a drink in The Abinger Hatch, Abinger Common, a fish and chips meal at The Plaice To Eat in Epsom, evening Italian meal out with Nikki to La Banca, Carshalton Beeches, ten-pin bowling in Tolworth followed by an Italian meal at Wildwood, Cheam Village with Nikki and Harrison and 15 movies watched.

2019

We had a meal out at The Kings Arms in Westerham, spent an evening together at The Faraday pub in Epsom and with his work colleagues, had a visit from Mother, Sara and Nikki. A pub lunch at Ye Old Red Lion in Cheam Village with Harrison, had a day out to Arundel and Rustington with Harrison, had a ‘Just The Two Of Us’ special day out to Brighton including breakfast at Bill’s, stopped off at The Camelford Arms and The Dorset in the Lanes, we both collected Kelly & Chris from Gatwick Airport, went to Debbie & Jim’s for Ethan’s 13th birthday, we got engaged, Jezz bought me a HomePod, Brighton Day Out together including shopping in The Lanes, lunch and drink in The Dorset, donuts on the Pier and evening meal at Gars Chinese restaurant, two-day breakaway in Derby and a trip to Alton Towers, went to Botley Farmhouse tea room together, lunch at The Woodman with the fmaily for Stacey’s 32nd and Alfie’s 16th birthday, breakfast at Carats in Shoreham and a day driving along the south coast, Brighton Pride with Amanda, a family meet up at Amanda’s, my 10th tattoo that we both got: the kite balloon fingerprint and coordinates, another day in Eastbourne and Brighton, day out at the gay wedding show in the Hilton Metropole, evening meal at Brampton Mill that Kelly & Chris’s treat, overnight stay in The Premier Inn, St. Neots, went to see Elliot (Jezz’s brother).

2020

Evening meal out at our favourite Indian restaurant ‘Sakura,’ first day out since Lockdown to Farthing Downs for a picnic, picnic day at the Hogs Back with Amanda, day out with Amanda to Clapham and Tooting, evening meal at Nikki and Caiger’s, Jezz bought the Nissan Juke and traded in the Mini Coupé, first ever COVID-19 anti-body test together, day out in Brighton with Nikki, Jezz bought me a mini fridge for my room, Jezz has panic attacks episodes at work, I bought Jezz a giant bean bag, bought a new fibre-optic Christmas tree.

2021

We bought the domain name: thefatbloater.com, went to Andy & David’s for the first time, Jezz bought me a car pressure washer, day out in Brighton and ate in Kooks in the Lanes, arranged to have rings engraved in Brighton, collected hired suits from Moss Bros, went to Mother’s, had COVID vaccine jabs and booster, our wedding day, had a massage and facial together in a spa, mini break at The Langshott Manor in Horsham, Ideal Home Exhibition with Nikki, family gathering with Michele at Dean’s, evening out at the Comrades club in Epsom for Janet’s retirement party, Nik and Caiger’s for Christmas Day lunch. Oh, yeah… and got married.

2022

Day out at Eastbourne with fish and chips lunch, day out in Kingston with Nik and Itsu for lunch, evening out at The Barley Mow, Epsom for Trisha’s leaving do, Nikki’s for Chinese take away, went on a clothes shopping spree in Kingston together, bought new Mac Studio, went for a meal at The Star in Cheam Village and again at Botley Hill Farmhouse in Warlingham, went to Sara’s 50th birthday bash at The Snow Goose, Farnborough, started buying garden furniture and chippings, water feature and parasol for the garden.

2023

Jezz’s brother, Elliot, died, Brighton Stay Over, First time ever at a Five guys restaurant, First time ever at eating Oysters, First time ever of having a bubble tea, evening at celebrating Zoe’s 40th birthday, Eastbourne day out, Jezz bought his new Hyundai Ioniq car, Jezz had his new car windows tinted, EV charging station installed at home, Brighton Spring 2023, Michele’s for dinner, Day out: Billericay, Liz & Lewis’s wedding reception, meal out: Wildwood, Cheam Village with Nik and Michèle.

2024

Jezz and I went to see Amanda at her temporary home, a beautiful cottage in Emsworth, went to Michèle’s for dinner, we both had our first ever Shingles jab each,