Wayne’s Articles 2: Deceit or Transparency

I believe, regardless of our upbringing, we’re all taught and develop a limited ability to tell the truth or keep secrets and information from others, usually for our own gain. However, there will always be exceptions, especially when it spares the feelings of a loved one, like asking, “How does this dress look on me?” The typical response is a compliment or at least, “It looks nice.” Over the years, as language and cultures have evolved, it appears that honesty is becoming increasingly popular.

I’ve come to realise that a more honest approach, even if it’s sometimes blunt and direct, can be more beneficial than initially anticipated. While the initial response might be perceived as hurtful, unnecessary, or inappropriate, I’ve discovered that after the offence, people actually appreciate the straightforward honesty and that it fosters a sense of trust and reliability. I believe that my reputation is improved, and most people now expect a genuine and heartfelt opinion from me.

In my 25-year-long relationship, honesty and transparency have not only been the cornerstones of our successful partnership but have also become integral and essential. For instance, being mindful of your partner’s feelings when interacting with relatives can have serious implications, while even seemingly minor choices of food types when ordering a takeaway can be influenced by your understanding of their preferences. By having a genuine and honest perspective of your partner’s desires, you can cultivate the necessary considerations for each other, which will undoubtedly contribute to a successful and fulfilling journey together.

Living in a world of deceit and lies demands an exceptional memory. You must remember every discrepancy, and if it even slightly varies, it’s crucial to maintain the correct facade with each person or group. Moreover, the impact of someone’s words about your reputation or personality is significant. I’ve always preferred the expressions: “you know where you stand with him” and “I can always count on an honest opinion from him.”

Within the realm of online dating and hookup apps and websites, it’s tempting to deviate from your authentic self. You might change your occupation, sexual preferences, and likes and dislikes. However, these preferences will ultimately be the ones you need to showcase when you finally meet someone. This can lead to awkward or difficult situations if you’ve mentioned wearing nipple clamps because they’ve expressed a preference for them, only to find yourself punching them in the face when they put them on you! Haha.

To conclude, of course, be authentic to yourself. However, equally important is to be truthful and honest with everyone and everything you encounter throughout life.